abra KADAVER

I’ve always wondered if the relationships of the people I know are really as perfect as they make them out to be on Facebook. If they really get along all the time and are each others’ best friends, and want to be together for the sake of being with each other out of anyone else in the world. If they really love each other as much as they say in their updates and profile descriptions. If they always look the way they do in their profile pictures: smiling, laughing, apparently overjoyed to be together.

I wonder if they secretly argue all the time, and don’t truly trust each other, and are really only together because they don’t want to be alone. If their relationship is constantly crumbling, if they constantly fear that the other will cheat, betray them or just up and leave. Too many relationships just seem…so fake. I know these many people can’t be that happy together all the time, like they make themselves out to be.

Why is it required in our society that you regularly have a significant other, or otherwise be labeled a loser, antisocial or weird? I for one know a few people who have been single for awhile, not because they’re ugly or antisocial, but because they’re happier being single. I envy their ability to be “alone” for as long as they have without feeling unfulfilled.

I think a lot of us could benefit if we were just single for awhile and enjoyed taking care of ourselves and our own needs.

“Shouldn’t need anyone, just scared of being alone.” – Anberlin.